We are people who fear making commitments to ourselves. We have been disappointed so often that we came to see it as acceptable to let ourselves down.
How Do I Let My Walls Down?
Nearly everyone I’ve ever served as a therapist or as a coach has said to me, “You’ll have to be patient. I have trust issues.” My response to that statement depends on how good I think their sense of humor is. What I’m most likely to say is, “Relax. We all do.”
Vulnerability Works Like This
I know that when I say things out loud; it makes them more real, which makes it harder for me to ignore them or stuff them away. Maybe it seems strange that I talk to myself, but when I do it only in my head, I risk being less than honest. When I say it out loud, I notice the ways in which I might be justifying, rationalizing, or minimizing.
How Do I Ask for Help?
Somewhere between shame and fear is this place where unfamiliar steps seem impossible to take. It’s not that they’re difficult to understand. They’re uncomfortable, and so we go looking for softer, gentler ways to get what we need.
Top 10 relational mistakes in recovery
Top 10 list of pitfalls and false beliefs. Let’s consider healthy strategies BEFORE your next partnership
Relationships in Recovery
We tend to approach new relationships in recovery the way people who have just crawled across a desert approach water. Let’s look at common pitfalls and how to avoid them.